Your sex drive is on fire, but your man doesn't want to have sex. What is this, some kind of alternate universe? It all comes down to testosterone, according to Lionel Bissoon, MD, a hormone therapy expert in New York. He schools us on the factors that might be getting your guy down.
Booze = Bad
When guys drink alcohol, their livers convert testosterone to estrogen, which decreases sex drive and causes erectile issues. So, guys: If you really want to have sex, don't get too drunk.
When guys work 10-12 hours a day, they're often stressed. Stress lowers testosterone and, yep, that lowers sex drive.
A medical issue might be killing his mojo. There could be a cyst on his epididymis (the tube that takes sperm from testicles to the urethra), an inflammation of his prostate gland (even at a young age), or even a condition nicknamed "bag of worms"—or spider veins in the scrotum. These conditions are often uncomfortable, and the last thing a guy wants is sex. Once treated, his sex drive should bounce back.
Unfortunately his sex drive is slowly, naturally decreasing over time. Things start slowly dipping after 30.
The most common environmental thing hurting male sex drive is tight underwear. The bikini style may look sexy, but it hurts the function of his "boys." Testicles hang outside the body to stay cool and produce sperm. Tight underwear compresses them and heats them up, which hurts their function and can affect hormone levels.
Non-Organic = Non-Excited
The pesticides and insecticides sprayed on non-organic fruit have high estrogen content, which hurts their libido. Have your man stick to organic fruits and vegetables.
Sushi has a lot of toxicity in it, like mercury and arsenic, both of which lower testosterone production. If he's a sushi fiend and his sex drive is tanking, have him ask his doctor about taking Chlorella pills afterward to help pull out the toxins from his body.
Some water bottles contain Bisphenol A, an extremely estrogenic chemical. When your guy's estrogen level spikes, his testosterone and his sex drive dip. So, have him drink water from real glass bottles.
Don't Zap It
Zapping his dinner can also zap his sex drive. Microwavable meals release estrogenic toxins into food, diminishing libido.